12 things to do when someone you know suffers a loss

by James E. Miller (Willowgren Publishing 1994)

  • Acknowledge what has happened
  • Listen. Listen. Listen
  • Respond in your own authentic way
  • Accept your friend as he/she is
  • Offer to help and make your offer specific
  • Allow your friend his/her privacy
  • Relate to your friend as a whole person
  • Trush your friend to lead you
  • Radiate genuine hope
  • Carry your friend in your heart and in your soul
  • Open yourself to what this experience holds just for you
  • Journey with your friend in the search for meaning